icon-11dAlright. The dumbest thing I ever did… I debated whether or not to even share this. It’s kind of private. But, in the end, I figured that it’s worth learning from. It was Spring 2011, my Freshman year in college.

I’m not going to lie, I was bored out of my mind with the classes I had to take. It was a bunch of general classes that didn’t relate to my major, with like a gazillion people in each class, and all the same material I had learned in high school, pretty much.

The only real saving grace was that I got to hang out with some cool friends and go out for lunch between classes. On the day of complete dumbness, as it has been called, I went out with a group of friends to Arby’s.

We ordered our food, sat down at the table, and began …

icon-2High ambition is an intense desire to achieve what it is that you’re looking for in life. Some people have it, and some people don’t. Some leaders are loaded with passion, and a drive to achieve something. They are intense in their pursuit of their purpose and vision.

Other people look at these leaders in awe because they wish they could have just 1/10 of the drive. Ambitious leaders inspire people to want more. Where does that ambition come from? Desire. Yearning for something better so much that it drives you to pursue it with everything you’ve got.

Do you live in pleasantville!? I used to joke with Nellie, a friend of mine in college because she was so amazing at everything she did. She was a kick-butt writing consultant, and an even more kick-butt writer. I think she aced every paper she ever wrote, and she ended …

jack_tableHere is a list of 8 questioning techniques that you can employ to get the information you need to lead with certainty: 1. Start Easy To Increase Bonding and Trust Ask easy, no-brainer questions at the beginning of a conversation to connect with the individual and make it easier to ask harder questions.

Examples: How have you been lately? How was the meeting yesterday? What have you been up to? Starting with easy questions will help put the other person at ease.

2. Open Questions Ask open questions to get a broad overview of what the person knows or thinks. Examples: What can you tell me about the topic? What is there to know about the situation? What happened, exactly? Open questions let you get the big picture of a situation, and figure out how people feel about a given situation. The more open you are in your …

download-4My mother gave me a few copies of my elementary school report cards recently. Generally, I did very well with high marks in reading, writing, math, science, and social studies that lead me to get on the honor roll.

One of the things that jumped out at me is that there were only two main problem areas for me in school: handwriting and self control. In first grade, I got an “S minus, minus” in prepares papers neatly, uses capitalization correctly, forms letters and numerals correctly, and spaces letters and words appropriately. Basically, that was the teacher’s way of saying “I’d feel bad failing him, but his writing is horrible.”

Honestly, my grocery list still looks like a ransom note. But, the other pattern was a little more alarming to me. On just about every report card, I had a grading period where I messed up big time …

powerCalculated risk taking allows you take advantage of opportunities that can improve your life significantly that you would otherwise avoid or miss out on. Risk taking allows you to seize opportunities when they come your way, instead of letting opportunity pass you by.

Other people admire risk takers because risk takers show people that they are willing to open up new doors of opportunity. When you risk something, the end result may be positive or negative.

Putting Yourself Out There… You assume some degree of risk for raising your hand and speaking up at a meeting. On one hand, people can totally disagree with you and find you painfully “off” in your comment. On the other hand, people can see your point of view and agree with you, thus increasing your influence.

You’ll never know what the reaction will be if you don’t take initiative. But, you have …

49214412-businesswoman-leading-meeting-gettyp-1910x1000When I talk about magnetic leadership super-powers, very few rival in the power of honesty. It’s one of the most powerful, and it’s also one of the rarest. In today’s world, it’s so hard to get the truth.

People are always trying to cover up the bad and accentuate the good. Naturally, people don’t want to look bad or get in trouble, so they lie. That’s why when someone comes along and is willing to give the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help them God, people freak out!

I’ll give you a mind-blowing example. I had a friend in high school and college who, by all accounts, was not very responsible. He broke a lot of promises. He would say, “Sure, I’ll be there!” Then he’d never show.

Now, you’d think that everybody would write this guy off as a total flake, …

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Yesterday I was working on a wedding video for my cousin when my brother paid me a visit. “Dude, have you seen the Jimmy McMillan video on YouTube? The guy that’s running for governor of New York?”

I was very impressed with McMillan’s delivery and how he expressed empathy with people going through tough times. With all of the slight-of-hand politicians that have taken office over the years, it was refreshing to hear from a real person.…

icon-11dForget about the cat… It’s no secret why investigative journalists get the scoop. Journalists are curious creatures, always hunting for a good story. Part of the success of the news media is that they answer the question “What’s going on today?”

Not only that, they answer it in a very specific way using the 5W’s and 1H system: Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How. The leader that seeks is able to uncover the answers and get a truer, more honest look at how and why things work the way they do.

People like to surround themselves with people who are curious because it shows them you have the desire to learn and that you’re willing to investigate an issue before proceeding haphazardly. If you’re not curious, people will think you’re not interested in learning, and that you’re not willing to learn the big picture. When you are …

imagesNow here’s some pretty serious stuff. My philosophy on leadership has mostly been shaped from experience as a student leader as well as being a writing consultant. But about a year ago I found inspiration in the most unlikely of places: business philosophy.

One place I like to go to get leadership inspiration is in business philosophy books, videos, CD’s, classes, and workshops. While it might not be the sexiest subject, it holds many of the keys to great leadership. Here’s why: Business philosophy is all about how you get someone to hand over their money in exchange for a product or service. Sound familiar? It should. Mass

Influence Leadership is about getting someone to do what you want them to do in exchange for providing them something of value. Anyone who knows me knows how much I respect and honor the teachings of Jim Rohn. I …

icon-8Ahh… Sibling rivalry. That reminds me of the good ol’ days. Like the time my brother got a new fishing pole when we were little kids. He tied a bolt to the end of the string and practiced casting out into the middle of the front yard.

That wasn’t enough for him, though. He wanted a moving target. So he asked me to play a game. Of course I wanted to play. So he told me to go out and run around in the middle of the front yard.

I ran around in the front yard while he prepared himself for the perfect cast. Then he released the string, and the bolt zipped through the air, and hit me straight on the head. Of course, our parents just happened to be watching out of the window. They ran outside and scolded my brother for blasting me in the …